Our attachment system has different subsystems, one of these is the caregiving style we have when being with a partner. The caregiving questionnaire evaluates your caregiving style along four dimensions: Proximity maintenance in caregiving, sensitivity to caregiving, controlling caregiving and compulsive caregiving. Credit goes to: 
The caregiving system
The caregiving system is part of the attachment system and responds to the needs of others when seeking a safe haven (in times of danger and stress) or a secure base (in case of support for exploration, learning and mastery) or both.
Thus, according to Collins et al. (2010) the caregiving system is to be activated in two kinds of situations:
1. When a close person "has to cope with danger, stress, or discomfort and is either openly seeking help or would clearly benefit from it."
2. When a close person "has an opportunity for exploration, learning, or mastery and either needs help in taking advantage of the opportunity or seems eager to talk about it or to be validated for (...) achieving desired goals".
Quotes from: Mikulincer M. & Shaver P. R. (2016, second edition): Attachment in Adulthood. Structure, Dynamics, and Change, p. 348.
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For each statement, choose the answer that indicates how descriptive it is of you. You will get your score for each dimension.
1. I sometimes push my partner away when s/he reaches out for a needed hug or kiss.
2. I can always tell when my partner needs comforting, even when s/he doesn't ask for it.
3. I always respect my partner's ability to make his/her decisions and solve his/her own problems.
4. When my partner cries or is distressed, my first impulse is to hold or touch him/her.
5. I help my partner without becoming overinvolved in his/her problems.
6. Too often, I don't realize when my partner is upset or worried about something.
7. When my partner is troubled or upset, I move closer to provide support and comfort.
8. I'm good at knowing when my partner needs my help or support and when s/he would rather handle things alone.
9. I feel comfortable holding my partner when s/he needs physical signs of support and reassurance.
10. I'm not very good at "tuning in" to my partner's needs and feelings.
11. I tend to get overinvolved in my partner's problems and difficulties.
12. I don't like it when my partner is needy and clings to me.
13. I always respect my partner's ability to make his/her decisions and solve his/her own problems.
14. I sometimes miss the subtle signs that show how my partner is feeling.
15. When necessary I can say "no" to my partner's requests for help without feeling guilty.
16. I tend to be too domineering when trying to help my partner.
17. When it's important, I take care of my own needs before I try to take care of my partner's.
18. I am very attentive to my partner's nonverbal signals for help and support.
19. I can easily keep myself from becoming overly concerned about or overly protective of my partner.
20. I'm very good about recognizing my partner's needs and feelings, even when they're diferent from my own.
21. I can help my partner work out his/her problems without "taking control".
22. I sometimes draw away from my partner's attempts to get a reassuring hug from me.
23. I am always supportive of my partner's own efforts to solve his/her problems.
24. I tend to take on my partner's problems and then feel burdened by them.
25. When my partner seems to want or need a hug, I'm glad to provide it.
26. When I help my partner with something, I tend to want to do things "my way".
27. I frequently get too "wrapped up" in my partner's problems and needs.
28. I sometimes "miss" or "misread" my partner's signals for help and understanding.
29. When my partner is crying or emotionally upset, I sometimes feel like withdrawing.
30. When my partner tells me about a problem, I sometimes go too far in criticizing his/her own attempts to deal with it.
31. I create problems by taking on my partner's troubles as if they were my own.
32. When helping my partner solve a problem, I am much more "cooperative" than "controlling".
